Coming home for the holidays
My daughter says she is bisexual. I am trying to learn to accept this. Jane has a girlfriend. I met Terry. She is very nice. My daughter and Terry seem to be very happy together. Jane is coming home for the holidays and she is bringing Terry with her. The problem is I don't know how to talk to Terry. I feel so awkward around her. What can I do? (Secretly I still wish my daughter was straight.)
Gay men and women are just like anyone else. They love. They laugh. They cry. Gay and lesbian people are involved in the same things as everyone else. They are productive members of society. You can find them in every profession and in all aspects of society. In fact, you probably interact with gays and lesbians frequently and don't even know it. Yet you have no problem speaking to these people when you don't know they are gay.
Perhaps you can find an interest that you and Terry have in common. Do you both like to cook? Are you both creative? Maybe you both enjoy writing or sketching. You may both enjoy going to museums. Traveling is another topic people often like to talk about. You may consider buying tickets to a holiday concert that all of you can enjoy together. Once you break the ice it should become easier for you to talk with Terry.
I understand that you wish Jane was straight but she is who she is. That will not change. As you become less ill at ease with Terry you will have a happier visit with your daughter.
Good luck and may you have a joyous holiday season,
Wishing everyone a happy holiday season.
Peace on earth and good will to all.
Happy New Year!